Therapy: Part One of Seven.

The first step was writing, “This is over – not because I wanted it to be, but because she choose silence.” Then I had to say it out loud to myself.

Next, I had to write, “I can care. But I can’t carry both my feelings and her silence anymore. If you she wanted to fix it, she would’ve. That’s the truth I don’t want but need to accept.” Then I had to say it out loud to myself.

The last part was repeating the process. Write it, say it, write the next part, and say that.

The last part was to breath it all in.

I was instructed to Sit or stand still—quiet space if possible.

Close my eyes.

Take one deep inhale (4 seconds) through my nose.

As I breathed in, silently think to myself:
“This is over—not because I failed, but because she chose silence.”

Hold for 2–3 seconds.

Exhale slowly (6–8 seconds) through my mouth.

Repeat two more times.

Here’s the why:

I needed faced something that many people avoid for months. I said: “I care, but I can’t keep carrying something that’s not mine anymore.

I named the truth clearly, directly, and aloud. That matters—saying it out loud activates ourr emotional processing in a way reading silently doesn’t.

I didn’t rush. I let the truth sit. I repeated it. That repetition isn’t just for clarity—it’s ritual. It was powerful.

It wasn’t just about closure— it’s emotional integration. A way to release the pain without denying the experience and taking back control—not by forcing her to explain or apologize—but by creating my own clarity.

Next was step two.

Side note: If your going through the same, just know if it still hurts—that’s okay. Healing doesn’t mean it stops hurting overnight. It means you’re no longer staying stuck hoping it’ll make sense. You’re choosing to make peace instead.