Therapy: Part Five of Seven

Rewriting My Story.

My instructions for step five where as follows.

Say the following,

“I am not the one who got ghosted. I am the one who chose to stay real, even when others went silent.”

Next, and this is where you shift from heartbreak to healing:

• Start listing what you learned from this.
• Name the qualities you value—and now require in someone.
• Identify your red flags and non-negotiables moving forward.

This step turns pain into power.

Here is what I wrote

Start listing what you learned from this.

• I learned that consistency in myself matters more than clarity from someone else
• I learned that ghosting says more about them than it ever did about me
• I learned I can hurt and still show up, still build, still heal.
• I learned that structure is my safety net – and that I’m strong enough to use it
• I learned that digital boundaries are essential to healing. We can’t allow the stories or updates to write and control our story. Taking back ownership is key.
• I learned that communication is vital. Not only in how I communicate to others, but what I’m receiving from them. 
• I learned that I am not too much to the right people.
• I learned that vulnerability is not a weakness 

Name the qualities you value—and now require in someone.

• honesty over confusion
• Effort over excuses 
• Emotional maturity over chemistry 
• Communication instead of silence 
• Healing instead of remaining hurt 
• A willingness to try instead of remaining stagnant 

Identify your red flags and non-negotiables moving forward.

• inconsistent communication 
• Love bombing, then withdrawing 
• Avoiding difficult conversations 
• Ghosting – for any reason
• Lying
• Gaslighting 
• All their past relationships that ended, friendships and relationships, are never this fault. They’re always the victim in their stories.
  
  
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