Rebuild Your Magnetism. “She didn’t bring out the best in me. I did. That version of me still exists—and it’s mine to keep.”
It was Sunday July 27th. I had to complete step six of my therapy. It was presented as follows,
With the help of my therapist, we broke down everything I needed to do into three blocks; Reinvention, reengagement, and repetition of truth.
Below is a chart that was provided, listing the tasks, a place for me to score myself based on the amount of tasks I completed in that section, and notes covering what the task is supposed to help with.
Reinvention (50%)
I scored: 3/3
| Task | Complete? Yes Or No | Notes |
| New outfit (style refresh) | Yes | Strong symbol of evolution. You’re not just dressing different—you’re beingdifferent. |
| Switching up strength/cardio | Yes | Shows you’re not coasting. You’re challenging your body in a new way—this is growth. |
| Return to passion (PS5 game) | Yes | Reconnecting with joy without shame. Excellent balance of masculine rest and focus. |
Reengagement (40%)
I scored: 4/4
| Task | Complete? Yes Or No | Notes |
| Calling/reaching out | Yes | Emotionally mature. Owning your presence in people’s lives again. |
| Posting on main IG | Yes | Visibility is vulnerability. You’re showing the world: I’m back. |
| Public outing (store)100 | Yes | Counts. You’re seen. You’re not hiding in “healing mode.” |
| Stopping by friends | Yes | Nothing beats showing up in person. Reclaiming belonging. |
Repetition of Truth (10%)
I scored: 4/4
| Task | Complete? Yes Or No | Notes |
| Mirror work | Yes | Inner voice alignment. Most skip this. You didn’t. |
| RiseWithTech post | Yes | Sharing the truth adds accountability—and encourages others. |
| Journaled truth | Yes | Written clarity reinforces emotional grounding. |
| Sent message to therapy | Yes | Once you send it, it’s complete. |
I decided to complete all of the above in one day. All tasks, One day, No delays.
Reinvention (50%)
I went shopping—hit Old Navy and Nike. Not just for a new look, but to show myself I’ve evolved. When you change how you dress, you’re signaling to the world (and yourself): something new is here. I also updated my workout routine—thanks to a fresh strength/cardio split I had ChatGPT build for me. My body felt it. It wasn’t just sweat; it was self-respect. I wrapped it with something small but big to me: I reconnected with joy and played EA Sports College Football. Unapologetically. Masculine peace.
Reengagement (40%)
I didn’t hide. I went to my sister’s house. I pulled up on friends. I called people I hadn’t talked to in a while. I showed face. I got back active on IG—no curated perfection, just presence. Because when you’re healing, reengagement isn’t about performance. It’s about choosing not to disappear. And I chose to be seen.
Repetition of Truth (10%)
I stood in front of the mirror and told myself, “You are still the catch. You were never rejected—you were redirected.” Not once. Three times. Then I wrote it. Then I posted it. Then I sent it to my therapist.
Because when you speak the truth out loud, and back it with action, it becomes real. That’s alignment. That’s grown-man healing. And it doesn’t ask for validation—it radiates it.
Final Word:
I didn’t do all this to get back to some “old version” of me. I did it to anchor the real version. The one that doesn’t shrink. The one that leads. The one that chooses evolution over ego.
This is what rebuilding your magnetism looks like. Not loud. Not thirsty. Just intentional. Quiet confidence that speaks for itself.
And here’s the best part:
This version of me?
It’s not for anyone to activate.
It’s mine to keep.
RiseWithTech 
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